How to enjoy being single when you’re on the brink of turning 30

When we’re single and on the brink of turning 30 it can be so hard to stay present and enjoy life. We’re worried about finding a partner and we’re anxious that time is running out. It can feel like we’re frantically dating and stressing about whether we’ll find “the one”.

But if we really want an authentic, loving relationship, it’s going to require that we date from a place of love rather than fear. It’s going to require that you invest in your life as it is now and approach dating like it’s the cherry on top of an already thriving life.

Here are some ways to do just that.

Block out time and space to just do you

When you’re single you have more opportunities for alone time. And that doesn’t have to mean that it’s lonely. Set aside time and space for you to just do you. Bop around the house, cook something yummy, read fiction, lay in a park journaling. Follow your inclinations about what you want to do next, and enjoy open space and time with no expectation and no agenda.

Spend time discovering yourself

This single season is an opportunity for you to get to know yourself better. Tune into what you enjoy. What makes you feel good? What makes you feel supported? How can you prioritize those things and structure your life around them? How do you like to spend your mornings? What have you always wanted to try? What did you enjoy as a child? What has always come naturally to you? Knowing these things about yourself and practicing prioritizing your own wellbeing will be so important to a healthy romantic relationship, so discovering them now will set you up for success.

Invest in relationships that add to your life and give you energy

This is an important time to start discerning which friendships and family relationships are actually leaving you feeling supported and loved. Are there certain friendships or family members that leave you feeling drained? Have you been giving too much to people who don’t reciprocate? Practicing boundaries with friends and family is going to build the muscle to say no in your dating life. Spend your time with people who fill you up and leave you feeling energized, rather than wasting time on old relationships that aren’t right for you anymore. You’re going to need that same skillset in dating.

Treat this like the last time you’ll be single

Know that this season is temporary. Approach this time like it’s the last time you’ll be single. This mindset will really help you to take advantage of the freedom and independence that comes with being single, instead of spending it anxious and fretting. It will come to an end, you will eventually be in a relationship. As long as you stay committed to your personal development and stay in the dating game, this single season will inevitably end. Enjoy it while it lasts!